"I have studied 10,000 suspects and found that they all like to lie to these types of people."
If you have been lied to before, you probably remember the anger, sadness, and self-blame at the time, thinking: If only I "knew" . In particular, the other party's deception is not very clever, the kind of regret, shame, and disappointment all rushed to the head, making people at a loss for reality. Why would a liar dare to lie to you? How to spot the liar's disguise earlier?
"The easiest way to destroy a person is to praise him to death"
"The easiest way to destroy a person is to praise him to death." Have you heard this sentence?
This sounds at first glance to make us humble. But after a closer look, it also reminds us that a person who always smiles at you and asks you for help may have some small calculus in his heart. The so-called defense against others is indispensable.
Many people are traumatized after being deceived. I once saw the reason why a woman asked for psychological counseling in the WeChat group: "I have been in a serious relationship with him for 5 years, and put all my energy, effort and money into it, but he turned out to be a scumbag. He borrowed my money before. I haven't paid it back, and I won't come back without any evidence. I have no money, and I lost 5 years of my youth. It's not that I didn't doubt it. Maybe it's because of my original family. I dare not insist on myself. After being cheated, I still don’t dare to like people, even if I meet someone I like a little bit, I will think about a lot of consequences...”
If you have been cheated before, you will probably remember the anger, sadness, and selfishness at that time. Responsibility, I thought: If only I had "knowed earlier". In particular, the other party's deception is not very clever, and the kind of regret, shame, and disappointment all rushed to the head, making people at a loss for reality, and even depression in severe cases.
Have you ever thought about this question: Why do liars dare to lie to you?
It's not that you are too deceitful, it's that the liar is too good at disguising. A liar can keep his face intact when he is turbulent in his heart. He clearly wants to cheat you, but he pretends to be hello.
So, is there a scientific method that allows us to see through the liar’s disguise earlier and protect ourselves in the complex crowd? There is a way - micro-expression reading mind.
Pretending to be towards you, but in reality there are other intentions. Jiang Zhenyu, president of the Institute of
Psychological Stress Micro-Response Science, is known as "Detective Jiang" with his keen observation, and has also let more people know the mind-reading technique of micro-expressions.
For more than 10 years, Jiang Zhenyu has cooperated with several judicial scientific research institutions, and his daily work is polygraph detection, interrogation, conversation, and video analysis. From more than 10,000 suspects in these real cases, collect test data to analyze who they are likely to lie to, and what micro-expressions they produce when lying.
Why so much emphasis on empirical research? Because there is no physical evidence to verify the authenticity of the micro-expressions and body movements, they are all guessing.
You may have also heard a lot of popular science about micro-expressions: "Men have cavernous bodies in their noses, so touching their noses means lying" "When answering a question, looking to the left is recalling, and looking right is thinking about a lie." If you like you, your body will approach you unconsciously."
Jiang Zhenyu said that the real interpretation of micro-expressions and body movements is not so simple and rude.
Pretending to be towards you, in fact, has other intentions, and it is very common in life.
For example, you meet a leader in the company, and you are a newly transferred junior leader. In terms of seniority, he is older than you, but his position is the same, or even a competitive relationship.
One night, you teamed up for a dinner date to boost your relationship, and then when the atmosphere started to get lively, he sat down next to you, put his mouth in your ear, and praised you for doing this at a young age. Or he drank too much and put an arm around your shoulder, squeezed your hand hard, and made various physical close actions.
If it is interpreted according to a simple body: "I like you, the body will automatically approach you." This is obviously wrong. This is social behavior, processed and shown to others for some benefit.
How to debunk each other's lies
So how do we debunk each other's lies?
Jiang Zhenyu said that there are two ways to stimulate each other.
The first: you also put your arms around his shoulders, even put your mouth close to his ear, and praise him intimately. The principle is to respond strongly to his enthusiasm.
The second type: You get rid of his hand on your shoulder, look at him with a very serious look, and keep a little distance. The principle is to strongly avoid his enthusiasm.
You observe, after you do these actions, in which direction his enthusiasm changes.
For the first type, if he is pretending, he may not be able to stand your enthusiastic response, there will be dodging in his limbs, and vigilance will appear in his eyes; if he is not pretending, when you respond enthusiastically, he can't ask for it. He'll feel like his likes are recognized, and you're reciprocating affection.
For the second type, if he is pretending, he may smile again; if he is not pretending, you don't like him, he will feel that he has offended you, and a person who feels guilty is the one who really likes you the normal response. Combined with micro-expression interpretation, you can read the psychology of others.
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